I know that most women reading this post may be from a westernised, industrialised nation…and that is ok. The message I really want to share is that, yes some of the cultural rituals within the article are incredibly important, and to see such value placed on the role of a mother makes me sing with joy. We can all adapt our own practices, daily rituals, embrace and hold up the women and mothers around us…regardless of where we live. Perhaps within our close connections, we can create our own ceremonies when a woman becomes a mother….
A father’s journey into fatherhood is important too
I also want to acknowledge fathers too as their identity can change….people move from being the centre of someone’s universe, relationships and priorities change. The journey into ‘parenthood’ is life-changing and one that needs to be valued and embraced.
I read a lot about parenting, motherhood, spirituality, connection, infant attachment, breastfeeding…. the list could go on (on a side note the audiobooks about the Dalai Lama’s Cat -HHC aka His Holiness’s Cat- are life changing).
I came across this piece discussing Matrescence and I had to share it. I feel as mothers we are always searching, always questioning. Enjoy.
Wow, this has been a journey. It has always been a dream of mine to create a space where parents can go, let down their guard, be vulnerable and ask for help.
I didn’t want it to be clinical…I wanted it to be real, welcoming, relaxing…a place you don’t want to leave.
Being a new parent has been the hardest thing I have ever done. I love my children with every ounce of my being, but after the birth of my first child, I was lost…. I knew I was now a mother to this incredible little human being, but where was Nicole? Was she still in there? As a new parent you just keep going ( well most of the time ), the sleepless nights, the rocking back and forth, your changing body and relationship with your partner, the struggles that can happen with breastfeeding, is she gaining weight…is that the sixth wet nappy or the first…have you pooped today. It all seems so overwhelming, particularly if we feel isolated, perhaps away from family and friends.
Perhaps you wanted this baby so much that you feel ashamed to admit that you just can’t seem to cope…doesn’t this come naturally….I thought I would fall in love with my baby the moment we set eyes on each other.
Expectations of new mothers
We all have them of ourselves, of our new baby, of our partner and even of society. Sometimes they are unrealistic, sometimes they are out of our control, sometimes they are right on tee.
I find that a lot of mothers that come to see me have this most awe inspiring capacity to intuitively know what to do and how to react with their new baby. Doubts creep in though when we are influenced by external sources such as social media, differing opinions of health professionals, even family and friends.
We are here to help new mums on their journey
My biggest passion is helping parents on their own journey, discovering what feels right for them and their family. Yes, I have read an astronomical amount of literature in this field, ranging from breastfeeding, sleep and settling, infant behaviours, co-sleeping/bed sharing, crying, perimental health. I have completed qualifications in all of these fields and have spent so many hours with new parents that I can not count them. I can share the evidence with you, I can share stories of what has and hasn’t worked for countless other families, but most importantly I can jump on your train with you, guide you and hold space for you, whilst you travel on your journey. I can not wait to take this ride with you.